Be Happy with the Present

How many of you have actually reached the goal that you set for yourself and then realized that it’s not quite as glamorous or as exciting as you thought it would be. You hit that 25lb weight loss knowing or thinking that you would be happy and then you went right on to the next goal without taking any time to celebrate. Yes you have to set goals and yes it is great to meet them, but you have to take time to enjoy reaching them. Most of us get so caught up in the journey, that we forget that part of loving the destination is enjoying every step it takes to get there.

Having goals is absolutely crucial for success but learning to enjoy the journey by being happy with the present is even more important. I see on social media a lot of people who set unrealistic goals for themselves and then when they don’t meet it they think they should punish themselves. Now you’ve gone 10 steps backwards by the self doubt and recrimination that you allow to set in or the negatives that take over in your head. Remember for 95% of us that it took years to get that extra weight on our bodies. Nothing disappears over night.

Remember a couple weeks ago we talked about getting rid of the negatives and how important that is. Self doubt and self hate will sabotage any goal that you set whether it is for weight loss or self development. Stop with the self abuse. Go back and reread last weeks blog and learn to do the STOP technique every time a self doubt, self hate or negative thoughts come into play. You will be amazed at how easy it is to start to change your thought process and when you do you stop listening to the haters and the self hate coming from inside your head.

So you need to allow yourself to become mindful of what is happening on your journey and in this very moment and then you will start to see all the pieces fall into place. When you can master being in the present and getting ride of the negativity you will be able to find strength in any situation. When you can do that, you will have true power over your happiness and success, because remember, happiness in life is 90% showing up!!!!

S.T.O.P. Technique

I was at a conference last week and listened to Joseph McClendon III. He is one of the most sought after Ultimate Performance Specialists in the industry. He is an expert in coaching business professionals to overcome behaviors and inner and outer obstacles that may impede their results and affect their bottom line.

One of the things that he taught us was the STOP Technique. The STOP technique isn’t necessarily designed to use with Food choices, but the more I thought about it the more it can help you. The S.T.O.P. Technique helps us turn any pain into an action signal. I use the STOP Technique when a negative thought arises. I don’t get too many of them, but I am still learning and working on myself along with you. Now I’m sure you must be wondering how this relates to Low Carb and Keto. Well I’m going to tell you. Every time we go out to eat or are faced with a temptation of eating the wrong things – this Technique can work.

So let’s say you are at a theme park and we all know what that food can be like. Mostly carbs and sugar and we need to make intelligent decisions as to what to eat. We can tempt ourselves into saying “oh one cheat day won’t hurt” but mainly that just turns into another and another and another. So the STOP Technique can come into play to help.

S – Say STOP! – (Pattern Interrupt) When you are tempted to eat the wrong thing then you can just say STOP. You want to interrupt the train of thought you are having of being tempted or telling yourself it won’t matter. You can say any emotionally charged word – STOP, YES, BOOM, CANCEL or whatever else you can think of. It is all to interrupt the path you are on.

T – Take a Deep Breath – (Physiology) So immediately after saying STOP or whatever word works best for you – Take a deep breath. My favorite thing is to take a deep breath while saying “WOOSAAA”. It is a stress reliever for me. Then if you are sitting you can jump up or if you are standing you can start walking. Walking in place works as well. Anything to change your thought process and get you back into your “Low Carb Keto Lifestyle Mood”.

O – Outcome – (Focus On What You Want) You know you don’t want to cheat with a whole meal or even with a few too many carbs just for that meal. So if you immediately focus on what you want then it will help put you back into the right frame of mind – so instead of selecting a chili dog with the bun and french fries – you go for chilli dog without the bun and a side salad or some fruit. Then pat yourself on the back for making a decent selection.

P – Praise Yourself – (Reward) So pat yourself on the back or shake your booty as a reward for making the right decision. It allows you to relate something exciting and rewarding to making decisions on food. Thus it takes the pain away. Stop punishing yourself for every little thing. (Go back and reread last weeks post about Negativity)

This technique is designed to take a negative thought that comes into your mind – acknowledge that you are having it, stand up, take a deep breath, put a smile on your face, pat yourself on the back and shake your booty to turn that negative into a positive. You may have to do it a couple of times to shake the negativity (temptation of picking the wrong meal choices) but get faster and faster. The next time you have a negative thought or can’t decide if you want to cheat or not. Give it a try. I guarantee that it works every time.

I like to use this technique when my mind drifts along and wants to think about how a situation may work out. Stop with that. Why worry because it will probably never even happen.

This technique can be used in all facets of your life – food choices, negative people, negative thoughts, reliving the past over and over again. Anything to interrupt the pattern of thought and put yourself back into a positive and happy mood.

If you have any questions please feel free to get hold of us. Thanks and have a great week.