“I’ve learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances.” Martha Washington
There are a lot of people out there who can’t understand why they are miserable and unhappy. You do know that you are what you think!
Thinking good things and happy thoughts means that you are happy. Thinking about all the negative things and being miserable just leads to more unhappiness and miserableness.
But guess what – you are the only one who can control that! You have to make you happy, and if you think you are a miserable person and unhappy – you can change that. It only takes a second.
I’ve been listening to the book “The Secret” on audible. i listen to it actually for about 15 minutes every morning before I get my day started. It reminds me that I control my own destiny when it comes to happiness and everything else in life.
It also lets me know that I am normal! We have over 60,000 thoughts a day. When you catch yourself thinking something negative or talking bad about someone – you have the choice to change your thinking and you can walk away. Pull yourself away from the conversation if possible. Or change the subject.
I try very hard to have an awesome attitude every day when I get up. About 95% of the time I can stay in that awesome attitude. Life is too short to be miserable and unhappy. An attitude of gratitude also helps. When you’re thankful for what you have in life – even if it’s just $10 extra in your pocket, you will be amazed at how that will help to change your attitude around.
One of the other things that I’ve been trying to do is to give more. Whether it is my time – making masks and donating to a local hospital or $5 to a homeless guy standing along the street or paying for the person’s meal behind me in line – it always makes me feel better that I was able to give something to someone else. You never know when that little bit of kindness can make someone else’s day be brighter.
My daughter once asked me why I gave a homeless person $5. She was concerned that they would use it for something they shouldn’t or that they were just taking advantage of me! My answer back was that – that is on them. I give because I can and because of how it makes me feel. Whatever their circumstances are – I don’t worry about it. I’ve done more for myself by giving than worrying what they are going to use it for.
So as we move through these changing times – stop and smell the roses, look at the things you already have and be grateful, be excited about life and what it has to offer you, bless others with a little gift, and live life to the fullest every day.
“The ultimate source of happiness is our mental attitude.” Dalai Lama